Some encouragement! You have found this site and my blog because you needed professional help with your make up, beauty routines etc. You probably found it via the internet. Christiane may well be your first contact. Don’t be worried or anxious , she is there to help and support you, to give you the tips and the skills you need to look as convincing as possible.
I really know and understand your anxiety. It takes a lot of nerve (bottle) to contact, to ask for help and turn up! Maybe a friend, partner etc. has guided and helped you along your path of discovery. This was me years ago. I took the plunge and asked for help. My wife said to me that I needed help and guidance with my make up skills and routine. If I was to go out and present en femme to the world I needed to look as convincing as possible. She was worried about me! You need to invest in yourself.
Convincing make up is a challenge. There are so many products out there to choose from! Where is this all going? I belong to several TG Support Groups and Christiane’s name came up several times in a recent web chat. She is there to help you on your journey. She is very understanding and supportive. She is also very talented!
Over the years I have built up an excellent network of TG friendly companies and shops. The owners have become friends! Only recently I visited a friend who owns a local Dress Agency. She contacted me as she had two skirts and a lovely pair of grey long boots for sale and thought I might be interested. Come for a chat and try on. This was an invitation I could not decline. Well the rest is history, an early Christmas treat for Amanda!
You will be amazed how much help and support is out there. You only have to ask or look on the internet. I’m hopefully moving away after 40 years living locally in the New Year. I have a huge network of contacts that have helped me over the years. How will I cope, survive with moving away. Well, I have already found local TG groups, a Psychologist with TG Counselling expertise, Beauticians to help me, Laser Hair Removal practitioners, Dress Agencies, Boutiques, dress shops that are all very TG supportive. My local beautician friends have been incredibly helpful and supportive over the years and become a real friends. All are being contacted more and more by males wanting feminising beauty treatments. I regularly have waxing, eyebrow treatments, nail extensions, lash perming, and extensions.
Over many years I have had some lovely chats. Pre-Covid we often went out for drinks, meals etc. Nobody was ever phased. Many were fascinated, some thought I had a lot of bottle! Some said that it’s so nice to express yourself as you feel. Amanda has been invited to their charity fund raising events, drinks parties, fashion previews etc. I’m now so comfortable in my own skin! Some of you might have found rejection in your requests for help. This is hard. I have only experienced this once many years ago when I visited a boutique. The owner said no. I asked why was this. Her answer was she had had time wasters visit her shop and they just wanted to try on lovely dresses. This says it all!
Today things have changed so much. Your money is as good as anybody’s! Lockdowns have caused many issues in the TG community. No groups, face to face meetings, discussions, no beauty treatments, isolation, friction, anxiety, loneliness, mental health issues, family issues, relationships, work, the list is endless! I started my journey many years ago. I was anxious, scared, confused! I asked for help and have had so much over the years. I can still remember the first time I ventured out fully en femme as Amanda. It was so scary! I felt very vulnerable but after a few minutes felt at ease. My journey had just started. There was no going back! Over the many years of my journey I have come across people in all spectrums of the TG community. Some still in the closet, some fully transitioned, many somewhere in-between . All have needed help along their journey.
Have confidence, ask for help, step out and enjoy the real you!